You Love God, You're Married, Now Do You Really Need a Feather Tickler to Be Complete?

this fantastic friend of mine was helping me to organize my thoughts on how to proceed with this blog and she did a quick google search for "christians and sex" and came up with this hilarious site that is designed for christian couples specifically, but basically is a generic sex toy peddler.

don't get me wrong. i think it's great that even some part of the church body is focusing on sex. thank God. i just think it's funny that they're acting like the "Double Humm Dinger" and the "Head Honcho" are somehow best suited for God fearing folks. :) i am wondering which toys/games they passed on. i'm not a bible expert, but i'm kind of doubting that even if i read the bible stem to stern, i will find any reference in either testaments on the uses of a "Penis Enlargement Stretch Ring." i'm just sayin'.

anyway, we're going to start to focus now on christian marriage and how sex works within its structure. we've gotten through the rather tedious (but necessary, i think) anatomy conversations, so now we can focus on the details of married sex for christian couples.

along the way i might poke a little fun at the traditional christian approach to discussing sex. please bare with me, i mean (almost) no offense. :)

ok, so i couldn't find the clip i wanted without lots of virus-y looking hassle and a bit of a pornado. but if you haven't seen the movie "forgetting sarah marshall" (2008) it is FAN-FREAKING-TASTIC and you should go get it right away. besides all the other great stuff in it (an amazingly funny cast, the gorgeous hawaiian location, and an actual dracula puppet musical that will make you pee your pants laughing like i did- don't you judge me), there is also an excessively (and exaggeratedly) uptight christian couple (jack mcbrayer- "kenneth" on "30 rock" and maria thayer) on their honeymoon trying to survive their first attempts at intimacy. their story is very sweet and has a happy ending (hey-o), but is also hysterically funny.


this is the couple i'm talking about. grab the movie, watch them and enjoy. at one point when trying to reassure himself that he has God's endorsement to make love to his new wife, he actually utters the line, "you've got Christ between your thighs...only with a shorter beard..."

seriously. watch it. and we'll be back to talk sex in your godly marriage really soon. any thoughts, questions, comments, please let me know by adding a comment on one of the posts!

until then, happy sexin', everybody!

Girl Parts, Part II: "No, Seriously, the Outside Stuff is Awesome"

THE OUTSIDE SCOOP:



the vulva includes all the outside female anatomy- the labia, clitoris, urethral and vaginal openings and hymen (before it's perforated).

labia. these are the lips/flaps that keep all the delicate inside stuff covered as we go through our day. the outside layer (labia majora) is covered in pubic hair and is mostly made of protective fat. the inside layer (labia minora) is just a fold of skin covering the vaginal opening. the labia are sensitive and might be stimulating. i suggest you explore them with your partner with guidance, as with everything.

urethral opening- again, top hole. this is the opening for the urethra, which attaches to the bladder, which attaches to the ureters, which attach to the kidneys. i can't stress enough how much you want to keep this area clean to avoid bladder/urinary tract infections. i feel like i'm chanting "get up from sex and go pee!" but seriously, do.

vaginal opening- we already talked about the vagine. this is the opening to it. very sensitive to stimulation, explore gently with hands/mouths, etc.

the clitoris- alrighty then. here we go. so we've already established that over half of all women require clitoral stimulation to climax, so it must be kind of a big deal. but it's such a tiny little pleasure gadget! no bigger than the size of a pencil eraser or the tip of your finger, it has a LOT of nerves bundled close. it's really the equivalent to the male penis as far as ability to cause climax (orgasm). we will talk a lot later about the orgasm, both male and female. for now, i'll say that stimulation by fingers, mouth, or sex toy directly to the clitoris should be attempted gently and with guidance from the owner of said clitoris. it is a rather delicate little thing. the female orgasm is more complicated in some ways than the male's. we will get more into that in the future, i promise.

the breasts- nipples and breast tissue are more sensitive on the female and may be incorporated into your makin' with the love.

i think that covers all the girl parts. there are other erogenous (turn you on) zones across the body, if you're interested, look them up. they vary for each person, so this is something to discover between you and your partner. while one person might find getting her ear licked a total turn on, another might think it's a disgusting wet mess. for example.

as i mentioned when i was discussing boy parts, we need to be sensitive and respectful to our partner's insecurities about their body parts, especially these most personal ones. it's very likely that only your mom when you were a little kid and since then, only your doctor, has really been "down there." you the female partner may not be entirely confident of what's all down there and what it looks like/feels like/smells like, etc. somehow in our society we've endorsed male masturbation and sort of ignored or prevented female self stimulation. consequently (and this isn't universal by any means), men usually understand their own parts better than their female counter parts understand theirs. so it might be a learning process for both of you to understand what gives her pleasure. women worry that their breasts are too small/big or that their labia are too small/big or that their vaginal opening is too small/big or that they look fat naked, etc, etc. but do rest assure that, like penis sizes, the range of "normal" is vast and unless you're experiencing pain or problems, you more than likely fall within normal. talk to your partner about any concerns you have and go slowly. only do what feels right to you.

AND DO NOT FEEL LIKE FAILURES IF THE WOMAN DOES NOT ORGASM at first!!! again, women are a wee bit more complicated and might take some more effort to figure out how to best make her feel comfortable and satisfied. we will definitely talk about this more soon.

again, if you're experiencing pain, itching, lumps, bumps, abnormal bleeding, or any other concerns about your anatomy or function, please go see your physician.

sheesh. i'm exhausted with all this very mature talk about boy and girl junk. giggity.

until next time, happy sexin', everybody!

Girl Parts, Part 1: "What's On the Inside is What Counts"

the first thing you need to know is that there are 3 holes down there. that sounds terribly elementary, but you'd be surprised how perplexing the female nether region can be to people.

unlike the male, who both ejaculates and pees through one hole in the penis, the female has 1 urethral opening for urine (the top hole, very tiny), one vaginal opening for penis to go in and baby to come out (the larger, second hole down), and then, of course, one anus (the farthest down/ away from her belly) for bowel movements and such.

we will address the vagina, the ovaries and fallopian tubes, cervix, and uterus. many of the lady parts are designed for reproductive purposes. again, if you are currently trying NOT to reproduce, we will get into birth control in another discussion, but go ahead and read about all the lady parts so that you're fully informed. in addition, there are also the breasts, the labia and the body part whose mystery is only exceeded by its power, the clitoris. (it should have its own theme music, for all the holy grail references that are made about it).

THE INSIDE SCOOP:

the vagina (cooter, snatch, muff, cooch, p_ssy (hate that word), vagine, box). this is the area between the outside of the body (vaginal opening) and the cervix. it is made of mucous membrane and it has the ability to secrete fluids when stimulated (by either sexual excitement or hormones). it is also very sensitive and is stimulating when touched by penis, fingers, sex toys, etc (more on this later). as mentioned in my last post, the vagina depth ranges from 3-6" and actually changes somewhat to accommodate whatever is passing into it. the first several inches are the most sensitive. the g spot- some women report a magical g-spot ('g' for Gräfenberg, a German gynecologist) that is typically in the first 3 inches of the vagina on the anterior (front) wall. you might want to practice different sexual positions (more on these later) or manual stimulation to best reach this area to see if it works for you.

2 important things to note about the vagina:

1) most women do not orgasm with strictly vaginal stimulation. 50-75% of women require clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm (more on this in a minute). even though it's a little creepy to think about dr. phil and orgasms together, here in an excellent summary on the subject from dr. phil's website. check it out. he knows some stuff.

2) the vagina and the urethra are prone to infection because of their proximity to the anus and the germs that go along with that, so keeping the area clean and dry whenever possible ( i recommend using a feminine wash (NOT A DOUCHE-NEVER A DOUCHE) which is pH balanced to the vaginal tissue, wearing breathable white cotton panties and never thongs or other irritating, moisture-trapping materials, and always getting up to pee after sex to cleanse the area (and of course, something you were taught at age 2- wipe front to back!). if you're having frequent yeast or bacterial infections (symptoms include itching, discomfort, strange discharge or odors), see your MD.





the cervix/uterus: deeper inside the body from the vagina (this is the dead end of the vagina, actually) you'll find the cervix, which is the first 2-3 cm of the uterus. semen passes into the uterus through a hole (the os) in the cervix (unless you're preventing it), just as menstrual blood from the uterus passes out through the hole in the cervix during your monthly period. this tiny hole will widen enough to fit a baby through and then shrink back to itty bitty. it is also what the Ob/Gyn is scraping when they do a pap smear. the uterus (womb) is also an incredible shape-shifting organ. typically only about the size of your fist, it will accommodate a 9 month old baby person. it is the inner most layer of uterine cells that are being sloughed off when you bleed each month during (cursed) menstruation (more on this later).

as i've mentioned in an earlier post, the position of your cervix will vary somewhat during the month based on hormones. there might be times when intercourse is not very comfortable. it is possible but not probable that if the cervix is descended some, the penis might actually butt up against it during intercourse. this should be rare. but it might mean you want to take a few days off of intercourse. there is a TON to say on health issues related to the cervix and uterus, as women's health is a very broad field. we will have to get into those another time. typically, though, women have almost no awareness of these parts as they are tucked up inside.

ovaries/fallopian tubes: also tucked up in there are the fallopian tubes and the ovaries, which are attached to the uterus like the horns on the sides of bullwinkle's head. the ovaries produce female sex hormones and are responsible for developing and releasing the ovum (egg) each month in about the middle of the menstrual cycle (unless you're preventing this with hormonal birth control- more on this later). there are 2 ovaries and they are each about the size of a large olive. although these are pretty small and deep within your pelvis, some women can feel when they ovulate (the egg is released) and have some discomfort with this around the middle of their cycle, usually distinct and brief and on one side or the other. fallopian tubes have little finger-like things on the end near the ovaries and catch this egg as it floats away and sweep it toward the uterus. in the uterus if there is a little spermie to meet it, the two might make sweet music and create a zygote (the start of a baby human) that will implant in the uterus and start to grow, learn to walk, grow a bad mustache, go to college, etc, etc.

we will finish our discussion on lady parts in the next post.

again, if you're experiencing pain, abnormal bleeding, or any other concerns about your anatomy or function, please go see your physician.

Quick! I'm Getting Married Tonight! What Do I DO?

before i go on about girl parts (female anatomy), i think i will drop a quick down and dirty post about the sex basics you need to know before you venture forth in sexin' -doing it, f--king, screwing, bumping uglies, the horizontal mambo, laying pipe, etc (there are thousands of sex euphemisms).

1. lube. this is a rarely talked about and under appreciate asset. keep it close by and use it as often as you need. sometimes, vaginal juices will be sufficient so that sex might occur without any discomfort/chafing for either party, but often a little lube helps keep everyone comfortable and happy. and a little lube goes a long way. if you use too much, you have a slip n' slide effect and sensation will be lost for one or both of you. if you use too little, or none at all, the risk is that there will be discomfort, and any irritation during sex will also increase the risk of infection for the lady, so in order to keep things happy down there, so that you can have as much sexin' as you want, lube it up! (there are lots of brands, my favorite is astroglide. i first heard about it through a gyn who said that's what they use on the labor & delivery floor to get the stubborn babies out. but it is such good stuff, all the nurses were taking it home for their own recreation. :) i wouldn't recommend the heated/cooled ones, just go with the basics at first).

2. expectations- seriously. sex is NOT like the movies. there will be no music. there will, however, be lots of funny, potentially embarrassing noises. it's just how it works. you are not weird or broken. i recommend you learn to laugh about it. also, not like the movies, instead of you both anticipating each others every move and moving in a synchronized ballet, there will be some awkward mishaps. banging your heads together, accidentally biting each others lips, perhaps inadvertently leaning on your partner's hair and pulling it out of her scalp. :) someone might fall off the bed or bang their head on the wall. a million things can go "wrong." again, attempt to laugh through them. it's just the two of you. there are no cameras, no film audience expecting you to be/look perfect. oh, that reminds me. you might wish that you looked as flawless and put together as couples sexin' in movies do, but come on. it's a sweaty, messy affair.

so, all that being said. it might not seem sexy to be making accidental weird noises while stepping on each others faces and looking like a hot mess. but this is why it's so wonderful having one partner who you love and trust and to whom you can reveal yourself in all manners. my husband and i have had all the 'accidents' i named above. we have had to stop in the middle of sex to laugh and to figure out 'a game plan' because we just weren't jiving well. he actually said once, "wow. we are really a well oiled machine today, aren't we?" of the thousands of times we've intercoursed together, there have been times we just couldn't quite get it right and times when it felt like we could read each others minds and everything went beautifully. and you know what? either way feels pretty darn good. because we're together and we're loving on each other. and i can't think of anything more enjoyable than that.

this is why i cannot imagine having sex with a stranger. i would be mortified that he would see my jiggling, hear my weird noises, and potentially think i was bad at sex. but i don't have to worry about any of that with my wonderful husband. he knows me and loves me, no matter how imperfect i might feel.

3. what if one of us doesn't like it?? there's a good probability that one of you won't think sex is the cat's meow for a while. but i would say, give it time. like a new pair of shoes you're not sure you want to keep, you have to wear them for a while to figure out if it's the shoe itself you don't like, or if you just need to wear them in to better fit you. try, try again for 1 year. and keep talking. keep coming up with creative ways to be close, even if it's just a hand on the bum when passing each other in the kitchen, or snuggling close watching movies, or sexin' in ways that don't include penetration (ie: manual or oral stimulation). these are all wonderful, valid ways to express your sexual love for each other. actual intercourse is just one tool in your toolbox. and i'm guessing by the end of that year, if you've kept open discussion about the sexual part of your relationship and you've found creative ways to get closer, you will both be more on board with sex. but don't feel ashamed if you or yours isn't as into it right now as you wish. he/she will come around, just be patient. (pain during intercourse is another thing altogether. if, after the first few times sexin' and with plenty of lube and going slow and patiently, one of you is having real discomfort, do go see an MD. it might be something simple, but it should definitely be addressed before you learn to equate pain with sex all the time).

4. that reminds me, will it hurt? the short answer is "maybe, rarely." the long answer is that for some women, the first time they have sex, it is painful and there is some bleeding. this occurs if her hymen (the mucous membrane that partially covers the external vaginal opening) is still intact and needs to be broken through by the penis that first time. this can also be accomplished with fingers. many women had theirs 'broken' sometime ago in their youth and don't even remember it, so there's no issue of having to get through this barrier the first time they have sex. you might hear horror stories of someone who knew someone who knew someone who cried through sex the first time because it was so painful. try not to heed those too much. the pain should not last long, if there is any. and there's no rules that if you're feeling discomfort, you can't stop and relax for a while and resume play later when you feel better. i think a lot of couples who have pain the first time it's for one of two reasons. 1- they try to jump right into penetration without any foreplay or lube. this is like trying to put a moist hand in a rubber glove. you will get A LOT of resistance and your hand will not like it. 2- you are so psychologically wound up about the sex act, that you're closed up like a clam and anything attempting to get into the inner sanctum will be annoying/uncomfortable.

so go slow. do some touching, playing before you try penetration. talk about how you're doing and feeling as you venture forth, use some lube, and do your best to relax.

even after you've been having sex for a while, there still might occasionally be discomfort. for the woman, your hormones change dramatically during your menstrual cycle and there are times in the month that your cervix/uterus is actually lower down in your vagina and others when it's tucked farther back. also, many women feel the pain of ovulation. so, there might be some days in a month that the area is especially sensitive and a penis isn't very welcomed. if you want to get to know your cycle, you might be able to predict when those days will occur, so that you can avoid the situation. but they are rare. if you are experiencing pain with sex more often than you are not, go see your doctor. for men, pain with sex is more unusual and can mean either infection or overuse. if taking a couple days off of penile stimulation doesn't make it feel better, see your doctor.

5. do we HAVE to do it the wedding night? no. you're adults. do what you want. you might be completely blown out, exhausted after a long wedding day. you have the rest of your lives to do it. you can certainly wait until you're fresh the next day. in many ways, it's too much stress and pressure on the wedding night after all the craziness of a wedding. HOWEVER, you both need to be on board with this decision or you set up the precedent of one wanting/one denying. and you don't want that. talk, talk, talk. that's the lesson.

6. get up and pee! ladies, unfortunately your girl parts are prone to infection. it's just how they were designed. if you want to keep things happy and without yeast/bacterial infections in the vagina or bladder, the best thing you can do within a short while of having sex is get up and urinate and cleanse the area. this will well prevent the "newlywed disease" (urinary tract infection, vaginal infection- yeast/bacterial) and keep you in the game for more sexin'. also, when you're showering, i encourage you to use a feminine wash (NOT A DOUCHE! NOT THE SAME THING!) just externally on your labia, vaginal opening area. it is pH balanced to exactly match this area and will not irritate the sensitive mucous membrane like a lot of body washes and soaps will. men...i did not know this was a helpful tip to men, too, not having my very own penis, but my husband, (having his very own penis) says it also helps to pee shortly after sex for dudes. flushing out the excess semen by urinating helps keep things comfortable down there, too.

that's just a quick summary. we'll get into lots of these issues in more depth in later posts.

happy sexin', everybody!

again, if you have any concerns about your anatomy or function or any discomfort or concerns with sex that you're experiencing, please see your physician.

Boy Parts, Part II

the penis always gets all the attention...



the testicles/scrotum- testes, balls, cajones, stones, beans, pair, nuts, sack, 'the twins', 'the boys.' the job of the testicles is to produce sperm and sex hormones. there are two testicles and they hang inside the scrotum. it is common for one testicle to hang longer than the other (usually the left) so that they do not constantly bump into each other, causing pain and other problems. along with the penis, the testicles exist outside the body and because of their exposure to the ambient temperature, they have a sophisticated ability to maintain their temperature to protect the sperm they are producing/housing- this means loosening and elongating when too warm and retracting and 'shrinking' toward the pelvis when too cold. they are also very sensitive, meaning that any contact with them can be painful, but if done properly, it can also be stimulating. i encourage you to explore the testicles gently and with guidance from the owner of said testicles.

nipples- not used for much as far as biological function at this point in evolution, but these can also be stimulating on a man and should be explored gently and with guidance.


prostate gland- this is located inside the body just above where where the shaft of the penis starts and lies between the bladder and the rectum. its job is to produce much of the content of semen. the prostate gland can also be very stimulating. it is reached by way of the rectum. this is another area you and your partner can explore again, gently, carefully and with much communication. also, as we are dealing now with the anus, cleanliness is a must to avoid contamination and infection (as in, never does anything go from the rectum to the vagina or mouth).


...alright, then! so this is an overview of the reproductive parts of boys. there are, literally a million other things to say on the subject, but we'll get into more detail in later posts. any specific questions/concerns, lemme know!

disclaimer: this is not meant to be medical advice. if you are concerned about anything pertaining to your anatomy or function, please see your physician.

Boy Parts, Part 1

the penis- peen, wang, wenis, schlong, dick, cock, johnson, john thomas, peter, pork sword, and my favorite, "boner."

although, as funny as i think the word is, "boner" is a misnomer. a penis does not, in fact, have a bone in it. when it gets erect it becomes hard like bone, but it is really only blood filling the spongy body of the shaft and glans (head). an erection occurs when a man is stimulated (more on this later) and blood engorges the shaft of the penis. once this has happened, further stimulation can lead to orgasm (coming, cumming, finishing, blowing your load) and ejaculation of semen (jizz, spunk, cum, load, as in ‘blowing your’), which is a combination of fluids meant to facilitate the passage of sperm into the lady parts (more on these later). the amount of ejaculate will vary, as will the appearance. the penis is also a multi-purpose device as it conveniently also delivers urine through the same hole (urethral opening) at the tip of the glans.

alright now, for real, does size matter?

this can be a very sensitive subject. unfortunately, in our society, men are given the impression that the size of their penis somehow reflects something about their manhood. and if there are any worries of inadequacy, these might follow you into your marriage bed. as always, talking about it is a good idea. getting insecurities out there and exploring them together with trust and love and respect is a good way to go. but here also are some facts to keep in mind...trying really hard not to make any "that's what she said" jokes, i will say that the whole size issue has been blown out of proportion. the biological job of the penis (besides urinating) is to deliver sperm (via semen) to the woman's eggs so that they might combine and make baby humans (if you and your spouse are currently trying to avoid making baby humans, hold tight- we will discuss birth control in a later post). therefore, the penis's shape is designed to get close to the cervix/uterus at the back of the woman's vagina. but how deep do these mysterious depths go and how can a penis possiby be expected to reach? no worries. the average vagina is somewhere between 3-6" deep, and as far as her pleasure goes (more on this later), it seems that the first 4" are the most sensitive part anyway. so, the fact that the average human penis is approximately 5-6"long when erect, means that, the long and the short of it (har har har) is that all these penis-ego shenanigans are pointless. as best you can, leave the locker room stuff out of the bedroom, k?

and what if it doesn't work like it's supposed to, or...what if it works too much?

although i will not get much into this at this time, i will say that both issues of the inability to get/sustain an erection and premature ejaculation are, again, REALLY sensitive subjects and should be handled lovingly and respectfully by both partners. please don't think that if either/both happens it is the end of the world and an indication that either of you are failures as lovers. you are not. sex, like anything, takes practice and patience.

i will say that the penis has a lot of nerves per square inch and in order for penetration, and eventually orgasm to occur, an erection must be achieved through stimulation. depending on the man and the mood and the day, "stimulation" might mean something as little as a thought or image or the pressure of pants on the penis or it might require manual or oral stimulation to achieve an erection. it may take some vigilant effort (with stimulation) to sustain the erection and occasionally, getting and sustaining an erection might be an issue. we will discuss this more later. on the flip side, as many a young lad knows too well from embarrassing moments in chemistry class in high school, erections can "pop up" any old time they feel like it. and sometimes, if stimulation and excitement build, ejaculation can happen before both partners are entirely ready for the orgasm (and then, typically, consequently, any sex'n to be finished). again, there are techniques to avoid unplanned ejaculation and we will get more into that later. for now, please proceed with respect and love and open discussion on these most delicate of topics.

Human Sexual Anatomy 101

we'll start with the basics.

this might be very elementary for some people, but i think it's important to have an understanding of the human sexual organs before we talk about sex. you can't play the saxaphone if you don't know what one looks like, right?

for other people, this might be the first time you've been introduced to the nether parts. maybe you never took an anatomy class or you giggled through this section in sex-ed. and it might not only be the opposite gender's junk you are uncertain about. most of us don't actually have much of a clue what we're carrying, either. especially the ladies. if you are one that has always wondered what was happening 'down there' but were too afraid what google might turn up if you searched for pics, here you go. there is no shame. we're all in this together.

and for the most part, i will use only anatomically correct terminology in my posts, but before i do that, i am listing some of the most common euphemisms for each part so that you don’t embarrass yourself by missing the punch line of a dirty joke someday. you'll thank me. you might also find yourself giggling a little as you read through this information, and that is ok. sex can be funny. and we're all still fifth graders at heart. no worries.

tomorrow i will present to you BOY PARTS.

until then...here's some trivia...

a. what is the average length of an adult erect penis?
b. why does one testicle always hang lower than the other?
c. what is the technical name for the penis bone?


tune in tomorrow...

until then, happy sex'in!

You're Going to Talk About WHAT?

married sex is awesome. i'll start by saying that. i can literally think of nothing in the world that i would rather do than sex up my beautiful husband. it's divine. better than chocolate. usually.

but i fear that not everyone out there has the same experience with married sex. especially those just starting out. fresh out of the gate of a lifetime of virginity, how do young married couples begin?

my concern is that christian couples struggle with sex. and why wouldn't they? sex is very intimate and vulnerable topic. all couples struggle with it to some degree. but here i am picking on my christian brethren and sistren specifically.

here's why.

i think that in a misguided effort to protect young people from themselves, the church teaches young christians to fear sex. there's a lot of emphasis on the weaknesses of flesh. and somehow it morphs into the message that sex and sin are synonymous.

and so it's those young, soon-to-be married or recently married christian couples i worry about most. how do you go from fighting tooth and nail to avoid sex to suddenly embracing it? to deny your feelings, your instincts, your burn for the person you love most in the world for all the months/years leading up to the wedding and now...game on?

this topic is near and dear to my heart. i know quite a few christian couples that say that sex was the major conflict for them their first year of marriage. some it tore apart, others survived it, barely. almost all of them said that were ill prepared.

and who do you turn to to get a clue about how sex works and how to make it work when it's not working? i find that family, mentors, and church leaders are reticent to discuss this taboo subject. so you turn to books? the internet? friends?

that's where i'd like this blog to come in. i am not an expert. i have no specific learnin' in human sexuality and i am not a bible scholar. i am REALLY not a bible scholar.

but i am an extremely happily married, sexually satisfied Christian woman. i have been married for 8 yrs and my husband and i are each others only sexual partners. we have had our own sexual ups and downs over the course of our relationship and are stronger for it. i am also a physician assistant and so have some insight into the anatomical and medical aspects. and i will make every effort to represent God's word in these posts. as we discuss all the angles of married sex, we'll want to find out what scripture has to say. if ever you agree/don't agree with my interpretation of the bible, please chime in.

i would like this blog to be a resource and a dialogue. through comments, we can discuss any topics that i raise or you can (pretty please) suggest topics you'd like to see breached. and you can do it all anonymously. when you're leaving your comment and it prompts you for a user name, say "anonymous." or "smurfette" or "richard simmons." whatever you want.

alright then, let's begin!

happy sex'in, everyone!