Boy Parts, Part 1

the penis- peen, wang, wenis, schlong, dick, cock, johnson, john thomas, peter, pork sword, and my favorite, "boner."

although, as funny as i think the word is, "boner" is a misnomer. a penis does not, in fact, have a bone in it. when it gets erect it becomes hard like bone, but it is really only blood filling the spongy body of the shaft and glans (head). an erection occurs when a man is stimulated (more on this later) and blood engorges the shaft of the penis. once this has happened, further stimulation can lead to orgasm (coming, cumming, finishing, blowing your load) and ejaculation of semen (jizz, spunk, cum, load, as in ‘blowing your’), which is a combination of fluids meant to facilitate the passage of sperm into the lady parts (more on these later). the amount of ejaculate will vary, as will the appearance. the penis is also a multi-purpose device as it conveniently also delivers urine through the same hole (urethral opening) at the tip of the glans.

alright now, for real, does size matter?

this can be a very sensitive subject. unfortunately, in our society, men are given the impression that the size of their penis somehow reflects something about their manhood. and if there are any worries of inadequacy, these might follow you into your marriage bed. as always, talking about it is a good idea. getting insecurities out there and exploring them together with trust and love and respect is a good way to go. but here also are some facts to keep in mind...trying really hard not to make any "that's what she said" jokes, i will say that the whole size issue has been blown out of proportion. the biological job of the penis (besides urinating) is to deliver sperm (via semen) to the woman's eggs so that they might combine and make baby humans (if you and your spouse are currently trying to avoid making baby humans, hold tight- we will discuss birth control in a later post). therefore, the penis's shape is designed to get close to the cervix/uterus at the back of the woman's vagina. but how deep do these mysterious depths go and how can a penis possiby be expected to reach? no worries. the average vagina is somewhere between 3-6" deep, and as far as her pleasure goes (more on this later), it seems that the first 4" are the most sensitive part anyway. so, the fact that the average human penis is approximately 5-6"long when erect, means that, the long and the short of it (har har har) is that all these penis-ego shenanigans are pointless. as best you can, leave the locker room stuff out of the bedroom, k?

and what if it doesn't work like it's supposed to, or...what if it works too much?

although i will not get much into this at this time, i will say that both issues of the inability to get/sustain an erection and premature ejaculation are, again, REALLY sensitive subjects and should be handled lovingly and respectfully by both partners. please don't think that if either/both happens it is the end of the world and an indication that either of you are failures as lovers. you are not. sex, like anything, takes practice and patience.

i will say that the penis has a lot of nerves per square inch and in order for penetration, and eventually orgasm to occur, an erection must be achieved through stimulation. depending on the man and the mood and the day, "stimulation" might mean something as little as a thought or image or the pressure of pants on the penis or it might require manual or oral stimulation to achieve an erection. it may take some vigilant effort (with stimulation) to sustain the erection and occasionally, getting and sustaining an erection might be an issue. we will discuss this more later. on the flip side, as many a young lad knows too well from embarrassing moments in chemistry class in high school, erections can "pop up" any old time they feel like it. and sometimes, if stimulation and excitement build, ejaculation can happen before both partners are entirely ready for the orgasm (and then, typically, consequently, any sex'n to be finished). again, there are techniques to avoid unplanned ejaculation and we will get more into that later. for now, please proceed with respect and love and open discussion on these most delicate of topics.